Your guide to self-mastery and wellbeing
¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†by Helena Lass MD
It’s Helena here.
To be honest, I don’t know how I could live without having the skills to lead, not only manage, my emotions.
What is so special about that, you might ask?
Or even further – does Dr. Lass believe that it is even possible?
Look, what do all these phenomena have in common?
- enthusiasm, sadness, FEAR, LOVE, attachment, vanity, happiness
That’s right, these are all emotions, the how you FEEL. The list can go on for 200 more of these and – this is bold – they are the REAL forces running YOUR life…
And it was like this for me too, we all have been there. Until I realized that I am being taken advantage of by my own emotions and this is JUST WRONG.
Let me bring an example: in the morning, when you wake up before the alarm has set off and see that it is just 6:30 am – you can be quite¬†pleased¬†with yourself for doing so and make your way slowly to the bathroom … only to find another clock showing 9:30 and the moment you see this, everything changes. What changes? – the¬†emotion does.
Instantly you know that you are late. You may even experience a roller-coaster of emotions storming through. Perhaps there can be anger, anticipation of sth. bad happening. What’s wrong with being late? Well, you could be:
- humiliated / feel humiliation in front of others
- risking with leaving a bad impression
- fired by your boss – that’s a loss
- left out from the team
In any case, you are likely to feel some degree of FEAR and this will make you move at the speed of light. FEAR arises from the anticipation of future pain / suffering – emotional or physical. It is to be avoided at all cost! You may THINK all sorts of good reasons why you must hurry, but the emotion is the true FORCE behind that hurry.
It is a stimulus-action reflex. There is nothing wise about a reflex. A reflex is an automaticism. Do you want to be bossed around by a reflex?
Here’s what you can do:
1. Assume that it is true – emotions as the main force running your life. Just play this game that we do in science – make a hypothesis and set out to prove your case.
2. Look at other people – what is driving them? Don’t judge, just observe.
3. Look at the outcome of being driven by an emotion. How you behave and the decisions that you make. Is it wise – would you normally do this? Can you speak along – is there any way you can reason with the emotion (not now, please)?
With these tips you should already get some clarity to the very phenomena of emotions. Just to be clear – it’s not an issue of good / bad, but of how a psychological reflex has taken over the lead and turned you into a bystander.
There are more FREE tips about managing the emotions on my new webpage, that should be up next week. Definitely check that out, because ultimately …
Taking personal responsibility puts you back on POWER.
Ready to work with me?
If you have decided to bring more stability into your life and are ready to take a stand for your own success, then a good collaboration with emotions is needed. You would most likely prefer them to work WITH and FOR you, than against you.
Is this the time to break free from conditioning?
Are you WILLING to take the lead?
If you come up with any questions about how to skillfully master this very vital system or already know that this is exactly the next step for you, then
e-mail her on:¬†firstname.lastname@example.org¬†to¬†find out the best way¬†she can facilitate the change. Please be specific on your question.
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